Vision and Discipline
A man who flatters his neighbor spreads a net for his feet. Proverbs 29:5 · Berean Standard Bible
When you butter someone up with false praise, you're actually setting a trap that will catch them—and ultimately harm both of you.
Flattery in Solomon's world was a real social weapon. A neighbor might praise you excessively to lower your guard so they could exploit you or manipulate a deal in their favor.
Solomon, addressing people in the marketplace and community
The concept of flattery leading to harm runs through Scripture—it's part of the broader warning that deception creates instability in relationships and communities.
Someone who flatters a neighbor under false pretenses is actually setting a trap to catch him—the flattery is a weapon, not kindness.
The Hebrew חֲלַק־פֶּה (ḥalaq-peh), literally 'smooth of mouth,' denotes not genuine praise but dissimulation intended to lower someone's defenses. In the honor-shame culture of the ancient Near East, flattery functions as a sophisticated form of deception, creating false obligation or compliance. The מִצּוּד (mitssûd, 'net' or 'trap') imagery evokes hunting terminology—the flatterer positions himself as a predator, the neighbor as game to be ensnared.
The wisdom teacher, warning against the rhetorical manipulations that circulated in administrative and commercial contexts.
This connects thematically with the extended warning against the 'strange woman' (the adulteress) in Proverbs 7, who also deploys ח חֲלַק־לָשׁוֹן (smooth speech) to entrap. It prefigures Jesus's warnings against hypocrites who טָחַן (cover themselves in whitewash) while concealing corruption (Matthew 23:27-28).
3A man who loves wisdom brings joy to his father, but a companion of prostitutes squanders his wealth.
4By justice a king brings stability to the land, but a man who exacts tribute demolishes it.
5A man who flatters his neighbor spreads a net for his feet.
6An evil man is caught by his own sin, but a righteous one sings and rejoices.
7The righteous consider the cause of the poor, but the wicked have no regard for such concerns.
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